You will have seen earlier in the blog that Tim Sanders kindly let me quote a passage from his blog – SandersSays His reply to my request was very much in character: “Love it, Phil! You have my permission – thanks for sharing the Love.”
Well, I thought that with such a positive reply – I should read the 2002 First Edition copy of his book that I’d found second hand on Amazon … and make it my first book review on the blog. Here goes…
The book was read in one session (on a nice sunny day in the garden!). The “Knowledge” and “Network” sections are a particularly good read. One of the lessons learnt from the book was that if you are going to read a book – take some serious notes and note down at the end what you think the Big Thought was from the book.
I’ve never been a great note taker – but thought I would try to Mind Map the book with the software that I am keeping my “Personal Network” Network up to date on – MindMeister. Take a look at the MindMap of Tim’s Book – I’d be interested to see if this is helpful to others?
The three elements that I took from the book were:-
* In the business world it can be a very successful strategy to be generous and giving. He has a great mantra – NSPS “Nice, smart people succeed.”
* An important tool in this giving process is sharing knowledge with your friends and contacts. Tim has an excellent perspective on books which I will share later.
* A healthy network is “fed” by you making connections through giving & sharing your knowledge with others.
The book is a useful source if you are looking for some ideas on business reading. Although the book is now a little dated (published first in 2002) – I suspect that the references are still very relevant to business today. Take a look at the MindMap – there’s lots of references to Tim’s favorite books throughout. Certainly, Malcolm Gladwell’s “The Tipping Point” is next on my reading pile (and that’s mentioned frequently),
Tim emphasises the positive aspects for you and your network in giving and sharing ideas. He puts forward that you should be the hunter/gatherer of information for your network. He also sees that through this knowledge base you should evangelise about new ideas. It’s an interesting concept – and Tim seems to have a humble approach to this (it’s know that he knows it all – he just knows a new idea through a book he has read by someone else.)
This theory will appeal to those with a thirst for knowledge (I’d count myself amongst these folk). It also gives you a positive application for that knowledge by giving to your network selflessly. Tim has a cool way of working out what he reads (he use the analogy for dining) with Magazine Articles – Between-meal snacks, News Media (electronic or print) – Candy & Soda, fun to eat, but hardly appropriate to live on and (his favourite!) Books – the complete thought meal. It’s changed my perspective – and when you think that the other lighter meals are shoveled with those nasty additives (advertising!), you can see why books get a big thumbs up.
I liked the section on Networks. I share the desire to impart information to others – and he talks well about fusing connections with this. It’s also not a cynical view of giving in order to receive back (either payment as a broker – or expectation of a favour in return). Interestingly he illustrates through personal examples how at the edges this can go wrong (when people he introduce cut him out of a deal) and when it goes right (when a contact – out of the blue – gives him share in his company that floats).
My British reserve makes me cringe slightly through the final “Compassion” section. I’m not the huggy/touchy feely type – so this is a little lost on me. Maybe if I meet Tim at some point and he gives me a hug I will understand the “Love”.
In summary, on my journey exploring personal networks, this is a fantastic book that helps you to understand the principle of giving generously to feed a network and applying yourself to gaining knowledge to to have something relevant to offer to your network. I like the core principle of selflessness in that giving (very much like Keith Ferrazzi’s not keeping score in my earlier blog.) I would also say, that personally, Tim’s tips on encoding and processing books are excellent – and will be in my blogging/networking toolkit from now on.
Great book – “Loved it!”. Thank you, Tim.
[…] “you MUST do these things without EXPECTING anything back. This is the super secret (and really really really hard to learn) part of this.” This mantra is called “Pay it Forward” by Neal Schaffer, “Giver’s Gain” by Dr. Ivan Misner, “Don’t keep score” by Keith Ferrazzi and “Love Cats” by Tim Sanders. […]